Mercury opposite Mercury is a mixed aspect in synastry. It can promote communication, but it can also create volatility.
As the planet which governs communication, Mercury is extremely important when it comes to relationships.
Opposites are difficult aspects. Yet, they play a special role when it comes to relationships because they can help people balance each other.
Mercury Opposite Mercury in Synastry
Whenever Mercury is opposite Mercury in synastry, there will be communication difficulties.
Depending on the other synastry aspects, these difficulties could prevent a relationship from occurring. If the relationship does occur, it could be a volatile one.
On the other hand, Mercury opposite Mercury allows people to give each other perspective. If they are able to listen to each other's point of view, they can become good advisors to one another.
Mercury is always close to the Sun in an individual's birth chart. This means that if Mercury is opposite Mercury, the two have opposite Sun Signs as well. This will increase the possibility that they will form a partnership of some sort.
There are a couple of sign combinations that change the nature of this aspect.
Gemini and Sagittarius
Mercury is strong in Gemini and weak in Sagittarius. Mercury in Sagittarius tends to speak before thinking and does not often take the time to communicate properly.
Having excellent communication skills, Mercury in Gemini could be helpful to Mercury in Sagittarius. The problem is that Mercury in Sagittarius is rarely willing to accept help.
The difficulty is that neither Mercury in Gemini nor Mercury in Sagittarius tend to have much patience.
Virgo and Pisces
Mercury is at its best in Virgo and at its worst in Pisces. This will tend to create an inequality between the two when it comes to being able to express their thoughts, ideas, and feelings.
On the other hand, Mercury in Virgo is eager to be of service, and Mercury in Pisces is usually willing to accept help.
If the other aspects between them are good, these two can be a very good combination. Mercury in Virgo can really bring out the creativity of Mercury in Pisces.
The impact of Mercury opposite Mercury will also depend on what house this planet falls in each other's chart.
Man's Mercury Opposite Woman's Mercury Relationship
This is a tricky aspect to have in a romantic relationship. The two will find it hard to see eye-to-eye about anything.
They will need to find ways to communicate and to accept each other for who they are. Talking may not be the way for them to solve problems between them because it can easily lead to misunderstanding.
In advising a couple with this aspect, it will be important to look to the other synastry aspects for creative solutions to their communication difficulties.
In finding these solutions, look for trines and Venus aspects, which have the most potential to be helpful. For example, if the couple also has Mars trine Mars, they can find common ground in doing things together. So, rather than talking, they would be better served by finding activities to enjoy.
On the positive side, this couple can give each other perspective, and if they are able to value that perspective, they will make a good team. This can be hard in a romantic relationship, however, especially a long-term one.
Mercury Opposite Mercury in Friendship
This aspect works better in friendship situations than it does in romantic relationships.
The two will disagree quite a bit, but they will not necessarily be together all of the time. This will prevent their disagreements from being as wearing as they would be in a romantic relationship.
One of the principles of synastry is that any aspect, even a difficult one, is better than no aspect.
This is especially the case with Mercury. With Mercury opposite Mercury, the two will generally take opposite sides of any issue. On the other hand, they will be talking about the same subject.
They will understand each other. They will just disagree. This is a better situation than if they did not understand each other at all.
Just as the role of "Devil's Advocate" can be quite important in developing a theory, an opposing viewpoint can be useful when developing ideas. It takes humility and maturity to be able to take advantage of this, though.
As is the case with Mercury square Mercury, these friends are not necessarily good advisors for each other. They are good sounding boards, however, when it comes to thinking through decisions.
How to Tell if Mercury is Opposite Mercury in Synastry
In astrology, each sign has an opposite pair. The image below shows these opposite pairs.
If two people have their Mercury in signs from opposite pairs, the influence of this aspect will be present.
For the aspect to be fully present, however, the planets must be within seven degrees of each other. This is the orb, or allowable margin of error, for Mercury.
Like all other aspects, the closer Mercury is by degree, the stronger the aspect. Mercury opposite Mercury is a little different from other difficult aspects, though, in that the closer the aspect, the more positive it is. This is because the closer connection will improve communication between the two.
It is possible for Mercury to be opposite Mercury by degree even if they are not in the proper signs. In this case, the cross-sign aspect will be more negative, in that it will great conflict without any mutual understanding.
In synastry, Mercury opposite Mercury will create difficulties when it comes to communication.
While this could lead to good discussions and perspective, it can be wearing on romantic relationships.
This aspect works better with friendships and other relationships that are not as close.