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Mercury Conjunct Venus Synastry: Relationships and Friendships Explained

Mercury conjunct Venus in synastry is a pleasant aspect. Mercury is an important planet in synastry because it governs communication. Venus is the main significator in relationships. It also governs our interests and the type of person that we are attracted to. A conjunction is an aspect where two planets join together.

Mercury Conjunct Venus in Synastry

In synastry, Mercury conjunct Venus will help two people communicate in a pleasant way. This is a good aspect for any type of relationship. Mercury will say just the right things to please Venus, and Venus will encourage and charm Mercury. When two people have this aspect between them, they will enjoy each other's company. In general, the person whose Mercury is involved will do the majority of the talking, and the other person will do the majority of the listening. Despite this, in and of itself, this aspect does not suggest that there is any power imbalance between the two. Venus just likes what Mercury has to say and wants to hear more of it. The downside of this aspect is that there is a danger that the person whose Venus is involved may seem to agree with more than they actually do. They will be paying more attention to the way the other is speaking than to what they are actually saying. This could also be a tricky aspect if either of them has bad motives. It is very easy for them to charm each other, and they may not see through any type of deception. You can look to Mars contacts and other Mercury contacts to assess this possibility.

Special Considerations

This aspect can also be complicated if it occurs in either Virgo or Pisces. If it occurs in Virgo, Mercury will be strong and Venus will be weak. This will not be a problem in a friendship or non-romantic relationship. It can hamper a romantic relationship, though, by causing their interactions to be overly-cerebral. In Pisces, it can make the person whose Mercury is involved quite vulnerable if the other person does not have honorable intentions.

House Placements

For more information as to how this aspect will manifest, it is important to look at the house placements of these planets in each other's birth charts. See: Mercury in Houses Synastry Meanings: 1st through 12th House Venus in Houses Synastry Meanings: 1st through 12th House

Man's Mercury Conjunct Woman's Venus Relationship

In at least some respects, when a man's Mercury is conjunct a woman's Venus in synastry, he will lead with his head and she will lead with her heart. She will be attracted to his intelligence and his communication style. She will like to hear him talk. He will gain confidence from her attention and her pleasure in hearing his voice. In the early phases of a relationship, this will help them form a strong bond. As the relationship progresses, however, this aspect could create some issues. It might be very hard for her to say no to him or to openly disagree with him. This can lead to problems if she starts to resent things about the relationship that she did not want. You can look to her Mercury and her Mars to determine the likelihood of this difficulty arising. To avoid this danger, both of them will need to be aware of it. He will need to take extra care not to see silence as consent. Even if he thinks she agrees with him, he should double and triple check to be sure. She in turn will need to be scrupulous about communicating her true feelings. It will probably help if she makes a habit of not answering anything right away, and to take the time to think about things outside of his presence. It is too easy for him to charm her into things that she does not want.

Woman's Mercury Conjunct Man's Venus Relationship

In this situation, it will be the woman who is more focused on the rational aspects of the relationship and the man on the emotional ones. For the most part, it will be easy to get him to agree with her. He will be charmed by her and want to please her. She will also do the majority of the talking in this relationship. On the other hand, when a woman's Mercury is conjunct a man's Venus there is less of a risk that he will agree to things that he does not want than when the situation is reversed. Even so, it still will be important for him to speak his mind, and for her to not assume that silence equals consent.

Mercury Conjunct Venus in Friendship

Mercury conjunct Venus is a helpful aspect in friendship synastry. The two will enjoy each other's company and find a lot to talk about. This aspect can lead to playful flirting between the two friends, regardless of their gender or sexual orientation. Despite this, this aspect by itself will not lead to their friendship turning into a romance. Someone whose Mercury is conjunct your Venus is an excellent person to go to for advice, particularly when it comes to relationships. This person will understand you and what you want and need in a relationship. At the same time, they will be able to be clear-headed and objective when it comes to your romantic interests.

How to Tell if Mercury is Conjunct Venus in Synastry

It is easy to see a conjunction between two planets. They will be in the same sign. Aspects by sign alone have meaning and influence. You can look to the degree that the two planets are in to determine how strong the conjunction will be. Each planet has a specific orb, or allowable margin of error, when judging the strength of aspects. The orbs for Mercury and Venus are both seven degrees. This means that if Mercury and Venus are within seven degrees of each other, the conjunction between them will be at full strength. If they are even closer, the aspect will be even stronger. Because the signs run into each other, it is possible for two planets to be within seven degrees of each other from adjacent signs. This is known as a cross-sign aspect, and its influence is weak. In the case of a cross-sign conjunction between Mercury and Venus, there will be a surprising affinity between the two people that could catch them off-guard.

Conclusion

Mercury conjunct Venus is a nice aspect to have in any synastry chart. It promotes pleasant conversation, and makes people enjoy being with each other. Despite the involvement of Venus, this is not, in and of itself, an aspect that promotes romance. On the other hand, it is still helpful in a romantic relationship.