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Scorpio is the sign of extremes, and a Scorpio woman never does anything halfway. This is true for matters of the heart as well.
It takes a long time to win the heart of a Scorpio woman, and when she gives it away, she usually mates for life. Scorpios are famous for being mysterious and complicated.
If you have fallen for a Scorpio woman, we will take you through the signs a Scorpio woman likes you. Also see the signs a Scorpio man likes you.
What Zodiac Sign to Use
Most people know their Sun Sign, but just as important, if not more so, is the sign that was rising in the East when you were born, which is known as the Ascendant.
Astrologers divide the sky into sections known as Houses starting with that sign. These Houses govern the different areas of our lives, and different types of relationships are located in different Houses.
You can learn the Ascendant or Rising Sign from a Natal Chart. You will need a date, time, and place of birth. If you have this information, you can get a Natal Chart for free from Astrology Season.
If you known her Ascendant, it will give the most accurate results, but if you do not, the Sun Sign will work as well.
The Four Stages of Relationships
Mars is the traditional ruler of Scorpio, and wooing a Scorpio woman is like embarking on a quest to gain entry into a castle.
A Scorpio woman falling in love falls deeply and hard, so she protects herself with barriers to prevent that from happening until she finds the right person.
These barriers are predictable, however. They follow the logical stages of relationship development, and the astrological Houses provide a map to each barrier.
The first stage is the 1st House, and you must pass through this House before developing any kind of relationship at all.
The second stage is the 11th House, which brings you to the level of friendship. The third stage is the 5th House, where the Scorpio woman will allow herself romantic feelings towards you.
The fourth and final stage is the 7th House, where the Scorpio woman is ready for a lifetime commitment.
We will guide you on this quest with the signs a Scorpio woman likes you at each of these stages.
Clear Signs a Scorpio Woman Likes You at Each Stage
The First Stage – Signs a Scorpio Woman Likes You and is Interested in You
For any type of relationship, the first stage is governed by the 1st House. This can be seen as the outside door where you knock and see if you will be allowed inside.
This House is always the sign itself, which in this case is Scorpio.
A Scorpio woman guards this first door very carefully, and few people ever get beyond this level.
Here are the signs a Scorpio woman likes you and is willing to let you through the door to this first stage.
1) She will go out with you
The first and foremost sign a Scorpio woman is interested in you is that she will see you at all.
If a Scorpio woman has no interest in you, she will reject you outright. By the way, this is true at any level when dating a Scorpio woman.
A scorpion will sting itself before being defeated by a larger animal, and no matter how difficult or painful it is for her, a Scorpio woman will break up with you totally and completely if she needs to.
Once you are shown the door, you will never be allowed back in.
So, if a Scorpio woman will see you at all, you can be sure that this is one of the signs a Scorpio woman likes you.
2) She will ask you questions about yourself
A Scorpio woman will want to know as much about you as she can as early as possible.
In the early stages of your relationship with a Scorpio woman, you will find yourself doing most of the talking. She will be paying close attention, not just to what you say but how you act.
She will also be paying close attention to how you treat others around you, such as the wait staff of the restaurant.
From the very start, a Scorpio woman will be looking at you as a potential partner, so she will want to gather as much information as possible.
If she likes what she sees and hears, she will continue to show interest. If she does not, you will know.
Her eyes will glaze over, and you will be able to tell from her voice and her demeanor that she has closed and locked the door to her heart.
3) She will self-disclose
A Scorpio woman will likely keep the relationship at this level for some time. Scorpio is a Fixed Sign and is slow to move and change.
At some point, though, she will do something rather surprising. She will tell you something very deep and personal about herself.
Prior to this, you will have likely done most of the talking, and she will have revealed very little about herself. Yet, when she does reveal something, it probably be something quite intimate and often very embarrassing.
This is a test. She is thinking of letting you through the second stage. Rejection is very painful for her, so in her eyes, if you are going to leave her, it is best that you do so early on, before she gets too attached.
She is telling you the thing or things she thinks you may reject her for. She is giving you a chance to leave now, if you want to.
If you pass this test and stay, she will probably let you through the second stage.
The Second Stage – Signs a Scorpio Woman Likes You and Considers You a Friend
Often the words “just friends” are used in a dismissive way. For a Scorpio woman, however, there is no “just” about it.
Scorpio women choose their friends very carefully. They rarely have many friends, but they value each of their friends very highly.
With some signs, it might be possible to skip or move quickly through the friendship stage. This would be highly unlikely with a Scorpio woman, however.
Friendship is an 11th House relationship, and the 11th House from Scorpio is Mercury-ruled Virgo.
Before a Scorpio woman falls in love with you, she will have to see if she likes you on an intellectual level.
4) She will talk freely with you
Once she has revealed her deepest, darkest secrets, and you have not been scared off, she will start to open up about many things. Conversations will become more mutual, and you might even find that she does more talking than you.
She is still paying close attention to you, but it will have a different feel to it. She will seem a little more relaxed and a little less guarded.
5) She will keep her distance, physically
With Scorpio women, there is no such thing as “friends with benefits.” Scorpio has a reputation as a “sexy” sign, but it is a lot more complicated than that.
Almost all Scorpio women are at least slightly empathic, and most are very empathic, whether they are aware of it or not.
They spend much of their lives shielding themselves from the emotions of others. For an empath, physical touch breaks down any shielding they have.
A Scorpio woman is not really capable of casual sex. Physical intimacy will create a powerful bond for her, whether she wants that bond or not.
If a Scorpio woman is not a virgin and is available, she will have learned that lesson the hard way, and she will be bearing scars from a deeply broken heart. She will be loathed to repeat that mistake.
6) She will share her interests with you
One of the clear signs that a Scorpio woman likes you and is thinking of letting you through the third stage is when she starts sharing her interests with you.
A Scorpio woman will usually have at least one or two interests she is passionate about. She will want to know whether you share these interests or are at least willing to tolerate them.
It might not be obvious, but this is another test. Scorpio women do not act on impulse, but think well into the future.
She is considering you as a possible lifetime mate, and she wants to know if she can have her passions and you as well.
The Third Stage – Signs a Scorpio Woman Likes You and is Falling in Love With You
It may take some time, but at some point, a Scorpio woman will allow herself to fall in love.
She has learned that you are not going to go away, that you are intellectually compatible, and that you are willing to allow her to keep her other passions.
She is ready to let you in to the inner chambers of her heart. This stage of a relationship is governed by the 5th House, and the 5th House from Scorpio is Pisces.
7) She will drop her guard
When a Scorpio woman falls in love, she drops her guard completely. Always before, it has been clear that she was watching you and testing you.
When she falls in love, however, she will be spontaneous and free with you.
The hard exterior will fall, and she will become soft and gentle.
She will change the way she dresses. Her clothes will be more relaxed and feminine. Her appearance will have an almost magical quality.
8) She will cry in front of you
Scorpio women have deep emotions, but they do not show them to just anyone.
A Scorpio woman in love will allow herself to be vulnerable. She will cry in front of you rather than holding back her tears. She will allow you to hold her and comfort her.
9) She will allow physical intimacy
As we discussed before, a Scorpio woman will go very slow with respect to physical intimacy.
If she has any experience dating at all, she will know that she will imprint on any sexual partner.
She will also know the bond that forms will be very hard and painful for her to break. For her, this is the point of no return.
When a Scorpio woman gives her body, she also gives her heart, mind, and soul. She can not help it.
So, when she says “yes,” this is one of the clear signs a Scorpio woman likes you and is ready to let you through the fourth and final stage.
The Fourth Stage – Signs a Scorpio Woman Likes You and Wants to Be With You for Life
Long-term committed relationships belong to the 7th House, and the 7th House from Scorpio is Taurus.
As stated before, unless something goes seriously wrong, a Scorpio woman mates for life. If you have gotten to this stage, the signs will be quite clear.
10) She will relax with you
One of the biggest shifts when moving from a dating relationship to a long term commitment with a Scorpio woman is that she will relax.
In the early stages of the relationship, she would have acted in a guarded manner, and in the third stage, there will be a deep intense quality, as all of the pent up attraction is let loose.
Once you have reached the fourth and final stage, however, the Scorpio woman will finally feel safe with you, and she will adopt a relaxed and easy demeanor around you.
She will talk and listen openly, and you will no longer feel like you are being interrogated or tested. She will start simply being herself.
11) She will be physically affectionate with you
One of the signs that a Scorpio woman likes you and has bonded with you is that she will become very affectionate with you on a physical level.
Her behavior will be more physical by touching and wanting to be touched by you. She will want to cuddle often and will love nothing more than a loving embrace from her partner.
This will be in stark contrast to the earlier stages of the relationship, which were strictly hands-off.
When she becomes physically affectionate with you on a regular and casual basis, this is one of the clearest signs a Scorpio woman likes you and has bonded with you on a deep level.
12) She will want you to marry her
No matter what moral or religious beliefs she has, and no matter her political leanings, a Scorpio woman is usually quite conservative at heart.
Other signs might be happy with an unconventional arrangement, but a Scorpio woman will not. A Scorpio woman will want you to marry her in a legally binding ceremony.
Scorpio women are intensely loyal and are famous for their jealousy. This will not be an open marriage, nor will she abide infidelity.
If a Scorpio woman has bonded to someone she will be faithful to the bitter end, and she will expect the same in return.
A Scorpio woman may behave in a jealous manner at earlier stages of the relationship because will be considering you as a potential marriage partner all along.
She will most certainly show signs of jealousy, however, when she has bonded with you and is ready to commit.
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Courting a Scorpio woman is not for the feint of heart. She will test you at every stage, and these tests will not be easy.
If you want a passionate and loving woman with unshakeable loyalty and faithfulness, however, this journey will be well worth the effort.
To help you on your quest, pay attention to how she acts and if she displays any of these signs of affection. What do you think, does your Scorpio woman show she has feelings for you in these ways?
Tuesday 16th of May 2023
I’m a Scorp and was researching a different sign and decided to look at my own. I would mostly agree. I have tried a lot of things relationship wise and maybe during those times I treated ppl somewhat differently bc I didn’t know myself as fully and then ultimately I had to accept myself. Now I know without a doubt that the above is very true. This is how I know - I am in a group of people, I can engage in open conversation and be social with everyone except the person who there might be something more with, I will keep them at arm’s length and take our interaction very seriously. I believe this is because I do not want to lead them on, if they are more into me than I them and taking my friendliness as an invitation for more, I need this to stay a safe distance. It is actually the opposite, I am reserved first and then more friendly when I know the direction and boundaries. If I can’t be friendly without it being taken the wrong way, I will not. I am currently dealing with a Leo and there is mutual attraction but I cannot allow myself to pursue or be pursued in this situation. It is incredibly difficult bc he is getting obsessed (he may also be Scorp rising), and his approach is driving me crazy. He is bold, magnetic, mysterious charming etc etc. he hasn’t told me in words, but it is all in his behavior and becoming blatantly obvious to me and everyone around us. I think if it was under better circumstances I would be extremely flattered but unfortunately I feel the situation is not appropriate. I wish he would just drop it and put it out of his mind so we could just be friends. So I am currently in between trying to be nice to him like everyone else, but not too nice, avoiding getting locked in eye gazing and silly smiles, and being ice cold. Unfortunately, I feel like everything I do makes him more interested. It is going to get to a point where I will figure it out, get the truth, and go from there. The situation involves both fidelity and my career, which are probably the two most practical important things in my life as a Scorp, and I swear, if he jeopardizes my career and is being dishonest, I will destroy him. No mercy. ☠️
Saturday 12th of December 2020
Don't quarterback anything. Just be authentic but reserved.
Wednesday 4th of November 2020
So I'm a Scorpio man who has been on one playdate with a Scorpio woman. I've never dated or had a relationship with a Scorpio woman, but have strong feelings for this one.
AFter one day with her I can sense that she's interested and she does want to get together again but she is definitely reserved, quiet at times, and a little guarded. She's very nice and loves to laugh though. I should add that she pursued me originally and the ball was left in my court to respond. I'm also a extroverted Scorp no not sure how that will play into things.
My question is do I/we have a chance at a relationship? LOL but serious at the same time. And, being that I'm a Scorp should I quarterback my approach differently than if I was born under another sign?
Wednesday 13th of January 2021
Scorpio woman just getting excited about the Scorpio man I'm dating. Your comment about quarterbacking this different made me laugh, I know we're all sitting around trying to come up with the perfect strategy and not f*ck it up lol. I have been with a Scorpio before, but in a basically long-term casual situation and that's over and I never want to spend that much time with someone on only "casual" terms again. So here I am, going slow af with this dude in spite of myself because it's not a game, I just don't want to be hurt. I'm not only combating my feelings towards him, but towards our societal ideas of masculinity. I can totally see us together for real. And I laugh sometimes at his interaction with me v. what he projects into the world e.g. the "happily single" type non-sense I can tell is dissolving with every look into my eyes. I feel the tide of our interaction turning from "omg, should i even be doing this?" to "this person is likely my soulmate" and I know it's because we're both just finally not ashamed of being who we are. It's incredibly freeing to spend time with someone that thinks exactly the way you do. I agree with Just Replyin, the beauty in it is finally being able to relax and not have to quarterback anything. You being you, which means that you naturally understand her is enough.
Tuesday 3rd of November 2020
So a little twist to add to all this : I'm a Scorpio male who has never dated or been in a relationship with a Scorpio Woman! That being said I just met a Scorpio Women on a singles site as she made the move on me (she knew I was a Scorpio in advance). I took the bait and within a week of chatting we were on a playdate followed by dinner.
Even as a Scorp myself I felt the magic in her presence and was taken in by her. I had warm fuzzy feelings that I've never had before, not even with my ex of ten years.
So I guess my question is do I follow the same game plan in trying to get to know her better, or do I need to quarterback this a little differently being that I'm a Scorpio too? I can also say even as a male I can relate to most of what was stated in this article.
Sunday 18th of October 2020
Nice one.. I am a full fledged Scorpio Woman and everything written here is so on point! Scorpios are beautiful people inside out but it takes only the brave coupled with a patient heart to see all that there is to see..
Thursday 21st of January 2021
Mm im a leo and wasnt in to these star sign things but the scorpio girl im seeing now has progressively taken my heart without myself knowing i was falling for her. Tbh i honestly thought our relationship was more casual so i was 100% in to the relationship and was a bit afraid if i let my feelings fly out ill get hurt (has happened with many girls). However i still showed my genuine interest and feelings for her, which i think she liked and appreciated because i must have reached the final level according to this article.
The problem at the time i am writing this is she has ghosted me for a couple of days and i have reached out (not obsessively, but respectfully) by asking “if there was something wrong or did i upset you in any way?” She responded that i didnt do anything wrong and she was just overwhelmed and needed time for herself, which ofcourse i respected and told her to take her time and that i am always available if she needed a shoulder to lean on. During the couple days shes ghosted, i did alot of reflecting on how i acted and treated her, and if i had done something that upset her. Ultimately i have come to the conclusion that whilst she was giving her full attention to me, i was not, instead i was more attentive to being with my friends and no acknowledging her feelings when she said she missed me and all.
Bottom line honestly im venting because my chest is tight as hell at the moment. I plan to REALLY express my feelings and be more official about our relationship the next time we meet. We still have plans for a nigh out this weekend which i guess shes not done with me?
But i do not like these sudden ghostings, is there a way i can bring this up without offending her? She can have all the time she needs but as a soft heart here, i need a notice that this will happen and so that i am fully aware it is a time she wants to figure something out for herself.