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Mercury Sextile Mars Synastry: Relationships and Friendships Explained

Mercury sextile Mars is an energizing influence in synastry.

All of the planets play various roles in our lives and our relationships.

Mercury governs communication, but it also governs our interests and our curiosity.

Mars is considered a malefic planet and governs conflict. It also gives us energy, drive, and the ability to get things done.

A sextile is a pleasant aspect. When two planets are sextile, they enjoy each other and can provide each other with perspective and balance.

Mercury Sextile Mars in Synastry

In synastry, people who have Mercury sextile Mars will excite each other intellectually.

The two will talk a lot when they are together. Despite this, Mercury sextile Mars is neutral when it comes to communication.

While this aspect encourages self-expression, it can get in the way of listening. People with this aspect can tend to talk over each other.

Even so, people with this aspect will generally have positive feelings towards one another.

The excitability of this aspect will be enhanced if it occurs between one of the Fire Signs (Aries, Leo, or Sagittarius) and one of the Air Signs (Gemini, Libra, or Aquarius).

This aspect will be moderated if it occurs between one of the Earth Signs (Taurus, Virgo, or Capricorn) and one of the Water Signs (Cancer, Scorpio, or Pisces).

The latter case will promote better communication because the parties will have an easier time slowing down enough to listen to each other.

This aspect will also be modified by the house Mercury and Mars occupy in each other’s charts.

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Mercury in Houses Synastry: 1st through 12th House

Mars in Houses Synastry: 1st through 12th Houses

Man’s Mercury Sextile Woman’s Mars Relationship

Mercury sextile Mars is neutral with respect to romantic relationships.

Mars can promote sexual chemistry and attraction, but it does not have that effect on Mercury.

In the short term, the two will feel like they have a lot in common and will generally enjoying being together.

They will find a lot to say to one another.

When he talks, she will find herself energized. On the other hand, it will be hard for her to actually listen to what he has to say.

In turn, he may have a lot of difficulties in communicating with her in a clear and coherent fashion. That is because it will be hard for him to stay calm while talking to her. 

He will tend to feel rushed. She will tend to either interrupt him or jump to conclusions about what he has said.

This can create misunderstandings in the long term.

Because the communication is still generally pleasant for both of them, they may not realize that they have not really communicated, which will compound these misunderstandings over time.

If they do have a long-term relationship, it will be important for them to recognize this dynamic. If they do not, misunderstandings caused by this aspect can lead to a weakening of the relationship, which can even lead to a break-up.

Woman’s Mercury Sextile Man’s Mars Relationship

This combination is very similar to when a man’s Mercury is sextile a woman’s Mars, but, of course, the genders will be reversed.

The difference is that the negative qualities of the aspect will be more pronounced when it is the woman’s Mercury that is sextile the man’s Mars, making it easier and harder to deal with at the same time.

In this situation, she will generally be aware that he is not listening to her. This will lead to more frequent conflicts between them.

On the other hand, these conflicts can be what saves the relationship.

In this case, it is far less likely that they will go for days, months, or years thinking that they have understood each other when they have not.

This means that misunderstandings are more likely to be resolved before they fester out of control.

Mercury Sextile Mars in Friendship

Mercury sextile Mars is more positive in friendship synastry than it is in relationship synastry.

The two will be able to find many ways to enjoy each other’s company.

They may have similar misunderstandings as can be found in romantic relationships, but these misunderstandings will generally not come back to haunt them.

Depending on the signs involved, these friends may frequently argue with one another, but this will not damage their friendship.

Deep down, they will find their arguments enjoyable and intellectually stimulating.

Friends with Mercury sextile Mars will be great sounding boards for each other when they are angry with other people.

They will be able to validate each other, while at the same time offering a balanced perspective.

How to Tell if Mercury is Sextile Mars in Synastry

Each sign has two other signs that are sextile to it. These signs will be of complementary elements.

The image below shows the sextile relationships between signs:

Fire, Earth, Air and Water Sextiles by Zodiac Sign in Synastry

When it comes to the positive qualities of this aspect, they will be present when the planets are sextile by sign.

The excitability of this aspect, which is what produces the negative qualities, comes into play when the planets are within orb of each other. The orb between Mercury and Mars is seven degrees.

Within that orb, the closer the planets are by degree, the more excitable it will become, and the more potential it has to interfere with being able to listen to one another.

It is possible for planets to be within orb of a sextile from the wrong signs. In the case of Mercury sextile Mars, a cross-sign aspect such as this will enhance its negative qualities while weakening its positive ones.

Conclusion

Mercury sextile Mars is a mixed aspect in synastry.

On the one hand, it helps people enjoy being with each other and will encourage them to talk. On the other hand, it can interfere with their ability to listen.

This aspect tends to be more negative in romantic relationships because it can lead to long-term misunderstandings, especially when it is the man’s Mercury that is sextile the woman’s Mars.

It tends to be more positive in friendships, where such long-term misunderstandings are less likely to do permanent damage.

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