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How to Attract and Seduce an Aries Man

How to Attract and Seduce an Aries Man

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An Aries man is strong and often has an attractive “bad boy” air to him. He likes to take the initiative when it comes to romance and dating.

If you are interested in an Aries man, how do you get him to notice and want you? In this article, we will talk about how to seduce, attract and win an Aries man.

Also find out how to make an Aries man miss you and chase you.

Profile of an Aries Man and his Woman

If you want to know how to attract an Aries man, how to seduce him, and how to win him, it is important to understand him.

Attraction and Seduction in Astrology

The signs of the zodiac represent 12 human archetypes, which are the basic forms a person can take. Real people are complicated, and they almost always contain a mix of the archetypes.

Most people are aware of their Sun Sign, but this is just one component of our personality. If you were to see a professional astrologer, they would cast a complete map of the sky when you were born, which would show the signs of all of the planets.

This is called a Natal Chart, and you can get one for free at Astrology Season. In order to do this, you will need to know the date, time, and place of your birth. If you are getting a chart for someone else, you should also get that person’s permission.

This article will be accurate for a man whose Sun Sign is in Aries. It will also be accurate if he has an Aries Ascendant or Rising Sign. The Ascendant or Rising Sign was the sign that was rising in the East at the moment of your first breath.

You can also read this article for any man whose Venus is in Aries, because among other things, Venus governs our sexuality.

As an aside, if a man’s Sun is in Aries, there is a good chance that his Venus is also in Aries. This is because Venus is never more than 2 signs away from the Sun.

If your man has both the Sun and Venus in Aries, this article will be doubly accurate. A man with an Aries Sun may also have Venus in Aquarius, Pisces, Taurus, or Gemini. If your man’s Venus is in any of these signs, his sexuality will be colored by that sign as well as by Aries.

Aries Archetype – Medieval Knights and Courtly Love

Aries Archetype - Medieval Knights and Courtly Love

Because the signs represent archetypes, one of the ways to get a picture of them is through images from fiction characters or historical stereotypes. These images are often purer than examples of real people because real people are much more complicated.

The Aries archetype is that of the warrior. He is bold and brave, but also blunt and uncivilized. He lives for the battle! The most attractive sign to Aries is Leo, which is the 5th sign from Aries. Leo is royalty. For this reason, in order to show how to attract and seduce an Aries man, it is helpful to look at the historical analogy of Medieval knights and courtly love.

In the Middle Ages, knights were a bit of a problem. They fought all of the time, and they often damaged farms and terrorized villagers. At first, the Catholic Church tried to curb their violence with rules, but that did not work very well. What did work was the ideal of chivalry and courtly love.

A knight was supposed to be chivalrous to anyone weaker than himself, but he was supposed to be devoted to his Queen. His Queen, of course, was high above him, and generally married to the King, so she was technically unattainable. That did not mean that the love of the knight was always chaste.

How to Attract an Aries Man

How to Attract an Aries Man - Be Strong, Competent and Feminine

Now that we have talked about some fictional and stereotypical images of an Aries man and his woman, we can talk about how to attract an Aries man in real life. Here are some of the important things you can do to make yourself fascinating to him.

1. Be Strong

In all of these stereotypical images, the woman is strong! Aries men like women who are just as brave and powerful as they are. Now, in the Modern world, most people do not spend their time in war or in physical combat, but there are still ways to exercise your strength and bravery. Almost everyone has dealt with hardship or adversity in their lives, and an Aries man will be attracted to a woman who has overcome these hardships with courage and valor.

Sometimes women will try to feign weakness or helplessness in order to attract a man. This will absolutely NOT work on an Aries man. Yes, he will rescue a damsel in distress, but that does not mean he will be attracted to her.

2. Be Competent

In similar fashion, if you want to know how to attract an Aries man, you must show him that you are competent. Aries men often find partners in their everyday life rather than seeking them out specifically. This means that he has seen or will see you at your job or at what you do best. If you notice that he is watching you while you do your work, just keep doing what you are doing. Do not let his gaze distract you. He is probably enjoying seeing you in action.

3. Be Feminine

We have given advice to be strong and competent. It may seem like a contradiction to say to be feminine as well. In the Modern world, femininity is often equated with weakness, but this is an unfortunate myth. There are many ways to be feminine and strong at the same time.

The reason that this is important is that while Aries is attracted to strength, he is not attracted to a masculine or tomboyish type of strength. He will respect that, but if he does not see your femininity, he will treat you as a colleague or a buddy. A feminine strength is very different. It is more refined and smooth. It is softer and less forceful.

One of the ways that you can accomplish this is through your outer appearance. An Aries man is attracted to beauty. On the other hand, he is not attracted to a meek or modest type of feminine beauty, but to a bold and confident look that stands out in a crowd.

If you are seeking to know how to attract an Aries man, you must be strong, competent and feminine.

How to Seduce an Aries Man

How to Seduce an Aries Man - Manifest the Queen and Challenge Him

What do you do if you want to do more than attract an Aries man? You want him to stop loving you chastely from afar, but to want you in a way that is not so chaste. In this next section we will talk about how to seduce an Aries man.

If you remember the profile of the Aries man and his woman, you will see that he cannot resist someone who is his superior in some way. If you want to know how to seduce an Aries man, you must be the Queen to his knight or you must challenge him at his own game. In some way, shape or form, you must gain the upper hand with him. Here are some suggestions.

4. Manifest the Queen

Find your inner Queen and let her out. If you are more shy and humble, find ways to boost your confidence. You may want to go to a spa and let yourself be pampered. Perhaps, buy yourself a new outfit that stands out in a crowd and shows you at your best. Maybe you can get a new hairdo and imagine that you want one to go with your tiara.

In a sense, you are putting on a role, but this is often the case with seduction. Enjoy the process and really let yourself be Queen for the day! Visualize your Aries man as a knight whose most noble purpose is to serve you and win your favor. This visualization will show in your face and in your demeanour, and this will arouse his passion.

5. Challenge Him

An Aries man cannot resist a challenge. If you want to know how to seduce an Aries man, you must find the strength to stand up to him and even to compete with him. If you are good at sports, you could compete with him in your sport of choice. Nothing arouses an Aries man more than a competition, especially a physical one. In this competition, even if you can not beat him, it is important that you make a good showing. For an Aries man, the challenge is far more important than winning or losing. Indeed, he will be bored and annoyed if he wins too easily.

If you are not physically inclined, you could challenge him in another way. Most Aries men like poker and similar games that involve gambling and risk. Other forms of betting will also excite him, and the stakes do not have to involve money. They could perhaps be over a household chore or something of that nature. It does not really matter, he is interested in the risk and challenge.

If your Aries man has become obnoxious in some way, which they tend to do from time to time, call him on it. Do not be afraid to tell him off. With an Aries man, it is quite common for fights and arguments to turn into passionate sex.

How to Win an Aries Man

How to Win an Aries Man - Be Gracious and Indirectly Assertive

We have talked about how to attract and seduce an Aries man. In this section, we will talk about how to win an Aries man. You can attract him with your strength, competence, and femininity. You can seduce him by challenging him and manifesting the Queen. If you want know how to win an Aries man and to keep him for the long-term, however, you must become his partner.

For any sign, the natural partner will be that sign’s opposite. The opposite of Aries is Venus-ruled Libra. This does not mean that you must be a Libra. Many Aries men marry women of other signs. Still, it will be important that you are able to manifest some Libran and Venusian traits. Here are some tips on how to win an Aries man.

6. Be Gracious

In the courtly love described above, the Queen or the maiden demonstrated grace and beauty. It was by this grace and beauty that she showed her superiority to the rough and unpolished warrior. In many ways, your role as the partner of an Aries man is to civilize him.

Aries man lack many of the social graces and niceties needed to get along with others in this world. For this reason, he needs a mate who can balance him and smooth his rough edges. The qualities of strength and competence you have developed and honed will be helpful for this task. Do not let him get away with rudeness or bad manners. Make him come to your door rather than honking outside. Insist that you eat at the dinner table rather than at the TV.

He may grumble about these things, but he will appreciate it as well.

7. Learn the Art of Indirect Assertiveness

If you have ever watched a Libra woman in action, you will see that she is a mistress at the art of indirect communication. She never actually says what she wants, but she almost always manages to get it. There is a quote from the 2002 movie, My Big Fat Greek Wedding, which says, “Man may be the head of the family, but woman is the neck. She can turn the head any way she wants.” This is how the Libran Venus operates. She is skilled at getting her man to think that her ideas are his and letting him think he is in charge, even though she is usually in complete control.

Some may consider this a form of manipulation, but this is how the Libran Venus operates. She is a natural diplomat, and she knows how to accomplish her goals in a smooth and harmonious way. She is the natural counterpart to the unpolished bluntness of the Aries man.

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In this article, we have looked at how to attract, seduce and win an Aries man. We have looked at the profile of an Aries man and his woman, and seen how to attract him through strength, competence, and femininity. We have seen how to seduce him by manifesting the Queen and by challenging him. Lastly, we have seen how to win an Aries guy through being gracious and learning the art of indirect communication. What do you think? Please let us know your experiences.


Thursday 5th of November 2020

i hope this will work to my aries man


Tuesday 25th of August 2020

Best fitting description I have ever read regarding my sign! All incredible valid advices.. Except the keeping him part (civilized him). We challenge our selves before every thing else. So it might hold for your teenager ram. But later in life chances are high, we become civilized through own development. So best advice: evolve, don't become boring and by all means never betray or decive an aries guy. It's probably the only thing he will never ever forget or forgive!

Taylor & Missie

Monday 19th of August 2019

My Aries guy and I met when we were 13/14 years old. I’m a Libra. We dated for 2 years and he was everything to me.. I was everything to him. We were two peas in a pod, if he had something to do there was no doubt, I would be right next to him. Some stuff happened and his family thought it was best for me to move out. I was a kid, I didn’t have much choice. It seriously broke my heart. For years I dreamt of him and would cry. I felt stuck. I was so unhappy, I missed him so much, there was a hole in my heart without him. Fast forward... I’m now 29, he’s 30, we lived in Charlotte NC when I was told to leave I moved in with my Aunt in Clover SC. About 45 mins from his house. I’ve shown up at his house 4 times through the years. The most recent was on 05/02/2019. I want him. The chemistry I feel when I am with him is undeniable. I know Taylor feels it too. For some reason he tells me he is gonna come spend time with me and then ends up never showing up. It hurts me. I feel like he doesn’t believe I am worth the drive or time. I don’t know what to do. I miss him to the point that it’s driving me crazy. Any relationship I have had since him has been me trying to “find him”. To find what we had. We were the lucky ones. Some people go their whole lives waiting to find what we had. He claims he wants me too but that can’t be true, if it were he would be a man of his word and not lead me on. Or have me get ready and be waiting on him, he hasn’t shown not once! I would do anything for him. I need to know what I can do to make him quit playing with my heart. I need to know what to do to make him mine again. I need him to understand how serious I am and how time is of the essence. Forever yours TJE MRS