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How to Attract, Seduce, and Win a Virgo Man

How to Attract, Seduce, and Win a Virgo Man

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A Virgo man may not seem like the most romantic partner at first. He tends to be rather critical, and he values the practical over the emotional. Yet for the right person, a Virgo man can be a stable and loving partner. Read on to learn how to attract, seduce, and win a Virgo man.

The Astrology of Attraction and Seduction

Many astrological articles focus on what is known as your Sun Sign, which is the sign that the Sun was in when you were born. To know this sign, all you need is your date of birth.

Not only is it easy to know your Sun Sign, but it also says a great deal about you. No matter what you show on the outside, in a real sense, your Sun Sign represents who you are on a deep level.

Despite this, none of us are only our Sun Sign. Every person has a unique birth chart, which is a map of where all of the planets were in the sky at the moment of your first breath.

If you are interested in this complete map, you can see an astrologer, who can draw up and interpret your birth chart. There are also several places online that you can go for a computerized chart. One of these places is

Naturally, this article is accurate for a man with a Virgo Sun. It will also be useful if he has a Virgo Ascendant. The Ascendant is the sign that was rising in the East when you were born, and among other things, it plays a large role in determining your personality.

The other planet that is heavily involved in relationships is Venus. So, this article will also be helpful if the man you want to seduce and attract has his Virgo in Venus.

Actually, if his Sun is in Virgo, there is a good chance that his Venus will be also. This is because Venus is never more than two signs away from the Sun. Other possible Venus placements for a man with a Virgo Sun are Cancer, Leo, Libra, and Scorpio.

Profile of a Virgo Man and his Woman

If you want to attract, seduce, and win a Virgo man, a good place to start is to understand what he is looking for in a woman.

A Virgo man has a well-earned reputation for being a perfectionist. By his very nature, a Virgo man notices everything. He has high ideals, but he is also well aware of how he falls short of these ideals. A Virgo man is often harder on himself than anyone else.

It is true that a Virgo man can be quite critical of a partner. This is especially the case if his Venus is in Virgo. Yet, truly he rarely means any harm by it.

A Virgo man wants nothing more than to be of service to those he cares about. He shows his love through practical assistance. For example, he may fix something in your house or offer to help you tidy it up. This may not seem as romantic as flowers and candy, but it is truly his unique way of showing affection.

A Virgo man is attracted to someone who is ambitious and practical. He, more than many, is likely to seek a woman who is higher than him in status. This is not because he is seeking to get ahead through marriage, but because he finds powerful women irresistible.

How to Attract a Virgo Man

Now that we have talked about a Virgo man’s profile and the type of woman that interests him, let’s discuss some ideas on how to attract a Virgo man.

1. Dress neatly

With a Virgo man, neatness matters…a lot. The first thing that he will notice about you is your appearance and how you dress. So, if you want to attract a Virgo man, you absolutely must look neat.

No matter what the latest fashions are, do not wear clothes with holes or tears. Tuck in your shirt or blouse unless it is clearly one that should not be tucked.

Like everything else about you, your hair should be styled neatly. Go easy on your makeup. Try for a clean and conservative look.

A Virgo man has an eagle eye and notices everything. Do not think that you can get away with scuff marks on your shoes or a tiny stain on your blouse. Even if you think that no one would see it, a Virgo man most certainly will.

2. Talk intelligently

How to Attract a Virgo Man - Talk intelligently

Virgo is ruled by Mercury, and like Mercury’s other sign, Gemini, a Virgo man will pay close attention to the way that you talk.

Also see: How to Attract, Seduce and Win a Gemini Man

He will notice if your grammar is poor or if you use words improperly. It is in the nature of this sign to be critical, so he will very likely judge your level of intelligence based on the way you speak.

Not only is the way you speak important, but if you want to attract a Virgo man, you must also have interesting things to say. A Virgo man has a sharp mind and a quick wit. He also has a great deal of intellectual curiosity and is interested in a variety of subjects.

With a Virgo man, however, it is important that you speak to things that you are truly knowledgeable about. He will know in an instant if you are trying to fake knowledge that you do not have.

3. Show humility

A Virgo man has the ability to visualize perfection. This is part of the reason that he is hyper-aware of the flaws in himself and others. As harsh as he may be towards others, he is even harsher when it comes to himself.

If you want to attract a Virgo man, it is important that you are aware of your own flaws and shortcomings. He will certainly see them. If you are honest with yourself and with him, he will respect you for it. He will also be honest with you about himself.

You absolutely want to avoid excessive pride around him. He will immediately see through any attempt on your part to make yourself seem better than you are.

Likewise, if you downplay your abilities to him, he will notice that as well and respect you for your modesty. This will also go a long way towards getting him to trust you and open up to you, which will be important later on if you become more serious about each other.

How to Seduce a Virgo Man

It can be a challenge to seduce a Virgo man, and this is especially true if his Venus is in Virgo. The natural self-consciousness of a Virgo man makes it hard for him to summon up confidence in the bedroom.

Yet, Virgo is an Earth Sign. Earth is the most physical of all of the elements, and there is a natural sensuality to him on the rare occasions that he is able to relax.

Below are some ideas for how to get a Virgo man into an amorous mood.

1. Take charge

How to Seduce a Virgo Man - Take Charge

As discussed earlier, a Virgo man finds a powerful woman very attractive. If you want to seduce him, do not try to be subtle or coy. Tell him exactly what you want. The more direct you are, the better.

This is likely to surprise him, but that is ok. A Virgo man will be quite nervous when it comes to sex. He will worry about his body and his performance. A direct and no-nonsense request will shock him out of his self-consciousness.

It is also good if you can make the practical arrangements. A Virgo man is not naturally spontaneous, so he will have a very hard time just being in the moment. He will want to know when and where, and he will be pleased if you work out those types of details in advance.

2. Be patient

While it is important to take charge when trying to seduce a Virgo man, it is also a good idea to be patient.

A Virgo man takes romance and sex very seriously, and he is not really interested in casual affairs. It will be important for him to be sure of you and of the relationship before he will go to bed with you.

It will also take him time to get past his natural insecurities. He will do better if you go slowly and take things a step at a time. If you try to rush him, he will balk, and you could lose him.

While you might have to fight your own desires and frustration, it is better to have small displays of affection that go well than try for something more and risk things going badly.

A Virgo man is as much of a perfectionist in this area of his life as he is in any other. If anything goes wrong, he will feel terrible about it, and he may not try again.

3. Be genuine and specific in your compliments

One of the biggest battles that you will face in trying to seduce a Virgo man is his lack of self-confidence. In order to help him get over this, you may have the urge to compliment him more than you otherwise would. Yet, you should be careful about how you act on that urge.

Like everyone else, a Virgo man does like compliments. On the other hand, they can have the opposite effect than you intend if you do not do it right. He knows his faults, and if he feels like he does not deserve your praise, it will only make him feel worse about himself.

When complimenting a Virgo man, it is essential that you truly mean what you say. He will know immediately if you are trying to flatter him. Small praise that you truly mean will be far better than something grander that you do not.

Specific compliments are far better than general ones. For example, telling him that you like the way that his arms look in the shirt that he is wearing would be better than saying he is handsome or sexy.

Another thing to be aware of is that if you compliment a Virgo man, no matter how genuine or specific it is, he will likely deny it. He may also say something bad about himself in response or even argue with you.

If this happens, stand your ground without getting argumentative about it. This will be easier to do with praise that you truly mean.

How to Win a Virgo Man

There is a strange phenomenon when it comes to relationships. On the whole, people are attracted to different things than they want or need in a long-term partner. People are attracted to those that are similar to themselves, but the natural partner for any sign is its opposite.

A Virgo man finds a strong, ambitious, and practical woman attractive, but he needs someone softer in a wife or a partner.

The perfect partner for a Virgo man is someone gentle with a magical quality to her. He needs someone who can balance his critical and perfectionistic nature with kindness and unconditional love.

Read on to learn how to win a Virgo man.

1. Show your vulnerability

More than anything, a Virgo man wants to be needed and to be useful to those he cares about. While he is attracted to confidence and competence, if he does not feel like he has anything to offer you, he probably won’t settle down.

A Virgo man has many talents. Ask him for help every now and then. If he starts to criticize you about something in your life, rather than get annoyed, allow him to come in and fix what he thinks is wrong.

It is also important to let him see your insecurities and fears. This will make him feel better about his own.

2. Be gentle

How to Win a Virgo Man - Be gentle

As discussed before, a Virgo man is quite hard on himself. He needs someone in his life who will love him just as he is, without trying to fix him or change him. This may seem ironic, but like all signs, a Virgo man is at his best when he has someone to balance his excesses.

The perfectionism of a Virgo man can become a real difficulty in many ways. Not only can his critical nature chip away at love and affection, but it can also have practical consequences.

As counter-intuitive as this may seem, there are many Virgo natives, men and women, who have living spaces that are extremely messy. The reason for that is that Virgo can adopt an “all-or-nothing” mentality. If his space cannot be perfect, he will not try at all.

This is where a gentle and forgiving partner can really help. He needs someone in his life who will patiently coax him to do his best even when perfection is unattainable.

3. Express your ideals

A Virgo man wants someone in his life who has high ideals and who shares his basic values. His deepest desire is to be of service to the world. It is common for Virgo natives to volunteer for charities and other causes.

While you have the greatest chance of winning a Virgo man if you believe in the same things that he does, there is still hope if you do not.

The important thing for him is that you have ideals, whatever they may be, and that you care about something other than yourself. Even if he does not agree with you, he will respect and admire you for your beliefs.

He will also appreciate if you are able to see the big picture. This is something that he has trouble with, so he looks for a partner who can balance him in this respect as well.

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A Virgo man can be a faithful and dedicated partner. He can be rather critical, however, and he does have his insecurities. He is highly attracted to someone who is ambitious and competent. On the other hand, when it comes time to settle down, he wants someone who is soft and gentle as well.