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Of all of the signs in the zodiac, Scorpio is the one most steeped in mystery and misunderstanding. Of course, part of the reason for this is that this sign enjoys being mysterious. Yet, when it comes to relationships, a Scorpio man can be an extremely stable, loyal, and devoted partner for the right person. Read on to learn how to attract, seduce, and win a Scorpio man.
The Astrology of Seduction and Attraction
Most of the time, when we say someone “is a Scorpio,” what we mean is that he was born when the Sun was in Scorpio. The sign the Sun was in when you were born is what is known as your Sun Sign. Your Sun Sign is important. In a very real way, it represents who you are at your very core.
On the other hand, there is more to you than just your Sun Sign. When an astrologer looks at someone’s nature in relationships and what type of person they are attracted to, there are other factors that also play a role.
One of these factors is the person’s Ascendant, which is the sign that was rising in the East at the moment of their first breath. So, if the man you are interested in has a Scorpio Ascendant, this article will also be useful to you.
Another factor to consider is the person’s Venus, which is the planet that governs seduction and attraction. So, you can also follow the suggestions of this article if his Venus is in Scorpio.
As a side note, Venus is never more than two signs away from the Sun. For this reason, if a person’s Sun is in Scorpio, there is a good chance that his Venus is there as well. If his Venus is not in Scorpio, it will be in Virgo, Libra, Sagittarius, or Capricorn.
If you want to know the signs of all of your planets and your Ascendant, you can consult an astrologer. There are also many places to get a computerized reading of your birth chart for free. One of these places is Astrology Season.
Profile of a Scorpio Man and His Woman
When looking at how to attract, seduce, and win a Scorpio man, it is crucial to understand his nature and what he is looking for in a partner.
As discussed above, Scorpio is shrouded in mystery and misunderstanding. One of the first things that may come to mind when thinking about a Scorpio man is an image of someone who is dark and highly-sexed. Yet, this is not necessarily the case.
One of the keywords for Scorpio is intensity. Whatever he does, he does it all out. While there can be a dark side to him, he can also be extremely virtuous. Also, despite his reputation for being highly-sexed, he is usually faithful when he falls in love.
Because he is so intense, a Scorpio man needs a partner who is kind and gentle. She needs to be able to absorb his powerful emotions and soften them. She also needs to be able to connect with him on the deep level that he craves.
How to Attract a Scorpio Man
With an understanding of the nature of a Scorpio man and the woman that he needs, let’s talk about how to attract a Scorpio man.
1) Be honest and forthright
As we mention in our Scorpio man personality guide, he has an uncanny ability to read people like a book. He notices subtle clues that most people miss, and many Scorpio men are psychic. Because of this, if you try to fool him in any way or to pretend you are someone that you are not, he will probably know immediately.
In the rare instance that you are able to fool him, it will only come back to haunt you later if the relationship goes anywhere. He does not take kindly to being deceived or lied to, and he can cut off a connection, even a deep one, fully and completely if he fees like he has been betrayed in any way.
Because of this, honesty is always the best policy with a Scorpio man. You will find that he can be incredibly understanding of the circumstances of others, and he will take a secret to the grave if asked to.
2) Pay attention to him
A Scorpio man will give you his undivided attention. He is able to focus on another person completely, and he will remember details that most people forget. It is rare that anyone can reciprocate his level of attention. A Scorpio man understands this, and he even sometimes uses it to his advantage.
Still, he does appreciate receiving attention in return. If you remember little details about him, he will be impressed and find you interesting.
A Scorpio man will be even more impressed if you are able to discern some of his secrets without your having to tell him. Now, of course, you should not spy on him or anything like that. Instead, you should tell him what you have seen and inferred using your own powers of observation.
3) Be steadfast
It is common for a Scorpio native to test any prospective partner. Scorpio women tend to do this more than men, but Scorpio men do as well. When a Scorpio native bonds with someone, it is for life, and it hurts him tremendously when such bonds are broken. For this reason, he does not open up to many people.
One of the ways that he may test you is to tell you a deep, dark secret that is embarrassing to him. Another test will be to try to push you away. Do not allow yourself to be shaken, and do not go away. Whatever you do, never reveal any confidences that are entrusted to you.
At some point, he will realize that you are serious about him, and he will let down his guard and let you in.
How to Seduce a Scorpio Man
Let us now move from the question of how to attract a Scorpio man to how to seduce him.
1) Do not be too eager
Despite the reputation of a Scorpio man as being highly-sexed, it is not easy to seduce a Scorpio man. For a Scorpio man, there are only two options when it comes to sex. It either must be completely and absolutely casual, with no expectations of any type of relationship, or a prelude to marriage or other long-term commitment. It cannot be anything in between.
Also, understand one option will never become the other. If he is having casual sex with you, it will never turn into a marriage or other long-term commitment. So, if you are interested in a Scorpio man as a husband, do not have sex with him before the relationship has developed far enough for that to be a possibility.
Indeed, your best bet is to not seem interested in sex at all, even if you are highly attracted to him. Let him make the first move. When he does, be very clear on what he is looking for and make sure that is what you want as well. Don’t accept less than you want, thinking it will improve over time. It won’t.
A Scorpio man knows his own mind and is rarely influenced by another, no matter how attractive he finds her.
2) Be kind
The passions and emotions of a Scorpio man are difficult for him to live with. Most Scorpio natives, both men and women, have learned strategies for keeping these passions and emotions under control and have practiced them from an early age. Yet, this control is always rather precarious, and it takes a great deal of effort on his part.
For that reason, he notices and appreciates a woman with a kind and gentle heart. Such a woman is soothing to him, and he can relax with her and trust her.
Do not just be kind to him. A Scorpio man is keenly aware that you could treat him in the same way that you treat someone else. If he sees you being mean or cruel to anyone, he will always wonder whether you will eventually turn on him.
3) Be vulnerable with him
A Scorpio man has a deep need to be a protector. He wants someone to look after and watch over. Scorpio is ruled by Mars, and providing protection is the highest expression of this planetary principle.
He does not want someone who is too independent or who does not seem to need him.
Tell him about your insecurities and fears. Let him know about the hurts that you have suffered throughout the years. You can even tell him about past heartbreaks. Allow him to take care of you. He is quite understanding, and he is surprisingly gentle with someone that he loves.
Not only will he be exceptionally supportive of you, but he will also find your vulnerability overwhelmingly attractive. It is quite common for his comfort to lead you both to the bedroom.
The reason for this is that when you are vulnerable, he gets to see your soul on a very deep level. This allows for emotional intimacy as well as physical intimacy. It is emotional intimacy that a Scorpio man craves the most.
How to Win a Scorpio Man
A Scorpio man tends to be “all or nothing” in everything he does, including relationships. This means that you will never be able to attract or seduce a Scorpio man unless he thinks that it might be possible for you to win him. He is looking for a long-term partner. He has very little interest in casual connections.
Below are some tips for how to show a Scorpio man that you are the one he wants to spend his life with.
1) Be patient
When it comes to attracting, seducing, or winning a Scorpio man, it is a marathon and not a sprint. Even though a Scorpio man is intense, he is not impulsive. He does not make decisions quickly, and he will not be quick to accept the changes to his life that a partner will bring.
For this reason, whatever stage of the relationship you are in with a Scorpio man, you must be prepared to bide your time. You will have to wait until he is good and ready to make a commitment to you.
Yet, a Scorpio man is well worth the wait. Unless you do something to betray him, he will stay with you for life. He is fiercely loyal and devoted to a partner without reservations. He will be with you through all of life’s ups and downs, and there is very little that he cannot manage.
2) Stay calm
Because of a Scorpio man’s powerful emotions, he really needs someone in his life who can stay calm. He is looking for someone to be an anchor through the storm. In particular, he needs someone who does not react in a negative way when he loses control.
A Scorpio man really does work very hard to maintain his emotional balance, but it is not easy. He is hyper-aware of the emotional and psychic state of everyone around him, and he does not have the luxury of forgetting painful memories.
Other signs have the ability to compartmentalize their feelings. They generally put them aside when they want to. A Scorpio man usually cannot.
As a general rule, a Scorpio man will not lash out at you when he is upset with someone else. It gives him no satisfaction to take things out on people who are not involved. On the other hand, his expressions of anger or upset can be rather disconcerting, even if he is not directing them at you.
One of the ways that you can stay calm is to treat his outbursts as a storm that will pass. Take cover if you need to. You do not need to engage him very much. Indeed, it would be best if you did not offer any suggestions to him as to how to calm down.
As discussed above, a Scorpio man has his own strategies for regaining control. Rather than tell him what he should do, ask as gently as you can what he needs from you. Then do what he asks of you to the best of your ability.
If it is you that he is angry and upset with, listen to what he has to say without getting defensive. Do your best to consider what he has to say as if it were someone else that he was talking about. If he is right and justified, admit it and apologize. If he is not, stand your ground firmly, but calmly.
3) Be loyal
A Scorpio man is fiercely loyal and devoted to a partner. He expects the same in return. He will forgive almost any fault or misdeed. The exception to this is if he feels like you have betrayed him. Even though a Scorpio man mates for life, and even though emotional bonds with loved ones are of utmost importance to him, he can break off a connection completely if he feels betrayed.
It is not only important that you are loyal to him. He will notice what you do with others as well. If he thinks that you have betrayed someone else, even if it is someone he does not like, you will have no chance of attracting or winning a Scorpio man.
You may be able to seduce him, but if you do, you will be placed in the “casual sex” category, and that will be the extent of your relationship with him.
To a Scorpio man, loyalty means sticking by him no matter what, being honest with him, and keeping his confidences. If you do find yourself attracted to another man, it is best to be honest with him about that as well. He can be possessive and does get jealous, but he will forgive even that, so long as you do not lie to him about it.
If he catches you in a lie to him, it will be hard for him ever to forgive you.
The reward for your loyalty will be his loyalty in return, and there is nothing stronger or more powerful than the loyalty of a Scorpio man.
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A Scorpio man is not for everyone. He has powerful emotions, and his intensity can be rather disconcerting.
On the other hand, his loyalty and devotion are absolute. He is not interested in casual relationships.
Because of this, if you want to attract or seduce a Scorpio man, you must show him that you will be a steady and calm long-term partner who will stick by him no matter what.