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A Cancer man is sensitive and caring. He will do anything to help someone who needs him or who depends on him. On the other hand, like the crab, he may have a hard shell around him. Because of this, he may seem grumpy or standoffish, especially at first. He can also be quite shy, which makes it difficult for others to get to know him. Because of this, if you are interested in a Cancer man, it can be hard to know how to approach him. Don’t worry. We have you covered. Read on to learn how to attract, seduce, and win a Cancer man.
The Astrology of Attraction and Seduction
The first thing that most people learn about astrology is their Sun Sign. This is the sign that the Sun was in when you were born. It is very easy to determine your Sun Sign. All you need to know is your birth date. Because the Sun represents your core identity, most people will manifest at least some characteristics of their Sun Sign.
Yet, we are all more than just our Sun Signs. All of the other planets also play a role in determining who we are. Every birth chart is unique, with its own combination of planets and signs. If you want to get your full birth chart, you can consult an astrologer, or there are many places where you can get a free birth chart. One of these places is Astrology Season.
This chart is written with a man whose Sun Sign is Cancer in mind. On the other hand, it will also be accurate if his Ascendant (the sign that was rising in the East at the time of birth) or Venus is in Cancer. Also, Venus is never more than 2 signs away from the Sun, so there is a good chance that a man with a Cancer Sun Sign also has Venus in Cancer. If not, his Venus will be in Taurus, Gemini, Leo, or Virgo, and you may consider reading the articles for those signs as well.
Profile of a Cancer Man and his Woman
A Cancer man is quite complex. He can be tender and loving, but he can also be fiercely protective of those that he cares about. He has the reputation for being a “Momma’s boy,” and it is true that Cancer men are almost always very close to their mothers. While this can sometimes be seen as a weakness, it shows a deep devotion to his family, which he will extend to his partner and his children. Because of these traits, he makes a very good partner for the right person.
A Cancer man will be attracted to a woman who is strong and complicated, and who may have stormy, passionate emotions. He wants someone who is just as loyal and devoted to the relationship and the family as he is.
Cancer is a Water Sign, and like all Water Signs, he has the capacity for a deep and even psychic connection with his partner. He will not be satisfied with a shallow liaison or a short term fling. A Cancer man will almost always want children, and he will not mind staying at home to care for them while his partner works. This is good because a Cancer man is attracted to powerful women who do well in the business world.
How to Attract a Cancer Man
Keeping in mind the archetypal Cancer man and his woman, let us now talk about how to attract a Cancer man.
1. Be approachable
As discussed above, a Cancer man tends to be shy. He has deep emotions, and he does not want to risk rejection. While he is attracted to strong women, if you seem too hard or tough, it will be hard for him to initiate contact with you. If you are interested in him, give him a pleasant and genuine smile. He may smile back, which is a good sign. At this point, he may or may not approach you for a conversation. If he does not, do not be afraid to approach him. There are some men that are put off by a woman taking the initiative, but a Cancer man is not one of them.
Whether he approaches you or you approach him, keep the conversation light and pleasant. Talk about the weather or some other innocuous topic. Your purpose here is to just break the ice and open the door so that you can get to know each other better.
2. Talk about your family
The most important thing to a Cancer man is his family. As discussed before, he is usually very close to his mother. Yet, his devotion extends beyond his mother. He gets his identity by being part of a clan, and he will usually know and be proud of his genealogy and his family history. He wants a partner for whom family is important as well.
So, if you want to attract a Cancer man, talk with him about your own family. This may be a bit challenging if your relationship with them is troubled. Even in this case, you probably have some family members that you are close to. If you truly do not, you may have close friends that form a family of choice for you.
If you do have challenging relationships with your family, it will be hard to hide this from a Cancer man. He is sure to ask you about them very early on in the relationship. Your best approach is to be honest, but treat it as an unfortunate situation that you are sad about. It is best not to talk badly about your family members, even if you truly don’t like them. This will make him doubt your suitability for him in the long term.
3. Show your vulnerability
A Cancer man is a natural caregiver. He has a natural desire to nurture and protect. For this reason, do not be afraid to show your vulnerability with him. He does appreciate strength in a woman, but he also wants to feel needed. This is one man who will listen to your troubles and will lend a supportive and empathic ear. It is this quality that will be your saving grace if you do have difficult relationships with your family, by the way. This is the reason that you want to show pain and sadness rather than contempt or dislike. He can empathize with sadness; he cannot empathize with contempt.
In addition to showing your vulnerability, it will be important that you are open to his as well. He will appreciate someone who he knows will listen to his troubles.
How to Seduce a Cancer Man
If you have successfully attracted a Cancer man, you may be thinking about how to seduce him. Because of the nature of a Cancer man, this question is complicated, and you should not do so lightly. Below are some things to think about when trying to seduce a Cancer man.
1. Go slowly
When it comes to a Cancer man, it is best to move slowly. Like all Water Signs, sex is not just about physical pleasure for him. It is a means of creating an emotional bond. It is not unknown for a Cancer man to want to wait until marriage. Even if he doesn’t, he will certainly want to wait until the two of you are in a committed relationship.
Because of this, it is important to think twice before attempting to seduce a Cancer man. He will take your attempts as a move towards a greater commitment, especially if you are obvious. Indeed, many of the relationship problems that people face with Cancer natives, men or women, come from moving too quickly into the bedroom.
Like all Water Signs, physical touch of any kind will create or deepen an emotional bond for a Cancer man. If he has sex too early in the relationship, either from wanting to please his partner or because of his own physical desires, he runs the risk of becoming more attached than the level of the relationship calls for. This will make him seem needy or clingy to his partner. So, it is best to wait to even try to seduce a Cancer man until you are ready for this to be a serious relationship.
2. Show your strength
A Cancer man is highly attracted to strong and powerful women. Let him see you at work or doing what you do best. Don’t be afraid to take the initiative, even in the bedroom. This will be arousing for him, and he will respect and even admire you for it.
There is a word of caution, however. Many times people equate strength with hardness. Yet, there is another kind of strength that is softer and more yielding, which is actually more difficult to break. It is this more supple type of strength that is attractive to a Cancer man, not the harder variety. He wants to bond with you on a deep level, and this cannot happen if you are too hard.
3. Demonstrate your loyalty
If a Cancer man is to open up enough for sex, he needs to know that he will be safe with you. For him, safety means that you will stay with him through thick and thin no matter what. Separation is deeply painful for a Cancer man, particularly after he has formed a bond with someone. So, in order to seduce a Cancer man, you need to show him your loyalty to him and to your relationship.
Loyalty is something that comes from within you, and you should not even try to fake it. If you do, this will be doing him and you a grave disservice. A Cancer man will be there for you whatever you need, whenever you need it, dropping everything else in the process. Are you willing to do the same for him? If you are not, you may want to consider a different sign as a partner.
How to Win a Cancer Man
A Cancer man shines when he has a family. He wants a house, a partner, children, the entire works. Indeed, most of what you must do in order to attract or seduce a Cancer man is aimed at convincing him that you would be a suitable wife for him and a loving mother to his children. Read on for specific ideas about how to win a Cancer man.
1. Meet his family
As discussed throughout this article, a Cancer man does want a family of his own. For him, however, his own family is an extension and continuation of the family that he was raised in and his lineage. So, it is an absolute prerequisite to becoming the wife or life partner of a Cancer man is that you meet and be accepted by his parents. There are some signs that will marry without family approval. A Cancer man is generally not one of them.
You must also understand that if his mother is still alive, she will probably be involved in his life and in yours. This is often a non-negotiable part of your relationship with a Cancer man. Hopefully, you will like and respect your potential mother-in-law. If not, this can be a big problem.
If you do not like his mother and/or she does not like you, this could be a barrier to your relationship with him, but it does not have to be. It is enough for you to tolerate each other. It is best not to talk badly about his mother, even if you do not like her, and don’t ever make him choose between her or you. If she speaks badly of you to him, don’t worry about it. She will only be serving to put a strain on her own relationship with him.
2. Consider a role reversal with him
Like all signs, the natural partner of a Cancer man is his opposite. His focus is and will always be on the family and on the home. If he works, he will do so to provide for his family, and he may not actually get satisfaction from a career. This means that his opposite is a professional woman who is dedicated to her career and whose primary consideration is about the social standing of her family.
In earlier times, this may have made for quite a difficult situation, in which each partner was stuck in the role they did not want, envying the other. In modern times, however, in many places, couples have more options. More than any other sign, a Cancer man is happy to be “Mr. Mom,” and to support the career goals of his wife.
On the other hand, a Cancer man tends to be conservative, and there are still those who will look down on him for assuming a domestic role. If such a role reversal is something that you would like, it will be important for you to reassure him that this would make you happy and to encourage him not to worry what others will think.
3. Be his partner, not his mother
Every side has a high and low expression. Usually, the low expression of a sign is an inversion of its high expression or its high expression taken to excess. The high expression of Cancer is that of a nurturer and caregiver. A Cancer man is at his best when he has someone to love and care for. The low expression of Cancer is self-pity and self-protection. Rather than caring for others, he wants incessant care from others and for them to prove their love to him. This could put you in the role of a mother figure. While you may actually win him that way, it sets a bad precedent, and it could lead to problems in the long run.
It goes without saying that everyone needs someone to look after them from time to time, and of course, you should be there for him when he legitimately needs you. Still, the focus should be on getting him up on his own two feet. The best way to do this is to show that you or someone else needs him. Indeed, the fastest way to get him out of a bout of self-pity is to direct his energy outward towards sympathy for someone else.
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A Cancer man can be a very good husband or partner for someone who understands and appreciates him. His devotion and loyalty are unshakeable, and not only does he make a good husband, but he makes an excellent father. If you want to attract, seduce, and win a Cancer man, you must show him that you will be a good partner to him as well.
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