Signs an Aquarius Man is Testing You

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Men born under Aquarius are supremely confident. They trust in their instincts when it comes to other people, and so rarely feel the need to play games.

But if you start to display behavior that he feels makes the two of you incompatible, he might occasionally test you, though never in a nasty or malicious way.

If an Aquarius man plays games, he is most likely trying to determine how much you trust him, and when you will start to nag him about his behavior.

He wants someone who has confidence in him and won’t try to change him in any way.

He might also test you for your strength of will and independence. An Aquarius man wants someone who always goes their own way and never follows the crowd (just like him).

Read for more details of the games Aquarius men play and how he might test you.

5 Ways An Aquarius Man Tests You

1. He Will Test Your Neediness

Aquarius men are independent souls. They do their own thing, they like spending time on their own, and they hate explaining themselves to anyone, including their partner.

An Aquarius man will want to test whether you are willing to give them the space that they need, or if you will become too clingy and need to be with them all the time and know where they are all the time.

They might deliberately drop off the grid and make themselves uncontactable just to see how you will react.

Will you ring once and send a text saying what you wanted, or will you call repeatedly and send several messages asking them where they are.

The best thing you can do is accept that Aquarius needs their alone time and not hound them. They will get in touch with you when they are ready.

2. He Will Test Your Sense of Humor

People born under Aquarius tend to think that it is not a good idea to take yourself too seriously.

They often think that most arguments stem from people having a fragile ego because they can’t take criticism or a joke.

They might decide to test where exactly your breaking point is when it comes to laughing at yourself.

You can expect to them make a few jokes at your expense. They want to see whether you take it to heart, or whether you can laugh it off and give as good as you get.

It can sometimes be difficult to tell when an Aquarius man is joking with you or not, because they tend to be very good at playing it straight. But they aren’t likely to do anything too cruel in jest.

So, the best thing you can do is have a sense of humor about yourself, and get your own back by subjecting him to similar jests.

3. He Will Test Whether You Are A Follower

Aquarius marches to the beat of their own drum and are rarely concerned with what other people are thinking or doing.

Their ego also means that they would hate it if others thought of them as following trends.

They want a partner who is equally “above” following the crowd and is a trendsetter rather than a trend follower.

If he starts showing interest in the latest celebrities or asks you what you think about the latest fashion craze, beware. This out of character behavior is probably a trap.

He might be measuring your awareness of these trends, and also your inclination to jump on the bandwagon.

Always show him how unique you are. And if you do like something that has become popular, make sure you have a good justification.

“Because it is cool and everyone else is doing it” won’t impress him. But if you have your own well thought through justification, you will earn a little of his respect.

4. He Will Test Your Controlling Tendencies

Aquarius men don’t like to be controlled in any way. They hate being told what to do, and even suggesting that they take a shower because you need to leave in 15 minutes can get their hackles up.

If they notice too many passing suggestions like this, they may begin to suspect that you are too controlling for them.

While they are unlikely to actively test you on this front, expect them to make a mental note of every time you suggest they do something.

As hard as it can be, the best thing that you can do is let Aquarius do their own thing in their own time. At all costs, resist the urge to prod or nag.

If you want him to do something, the best thing you can do is start doing it yourself. He is observant enough to pick up on this.

So, don’t ask him to take a shower, but do organize yourself in front of him to give him a subtle reminder that the clock is ticking.

5. He Will Test How Your Trust

Aquarius men believe that trust is everything when it comes to friendships and relationships. This is one of the reasons that they would never betray someone’s trust.

They also tend to think of it as beneath them.

But this also means that they can’t stand it when they feel like someone else doesn’t trust them, as they can see this as a slight on their character.

If you start to display insecure behavior, such as always checking up on him or looking sidelong when he speaks to someone else at a bar, he will begin to suspect that you don’t trust him.

If he is worried about this, he might test your trust, deliberately doing things that he knows will push your buttons.

The best thing that you can do is show him that these things don’t bother you.

Certainly, don’t try and retaliate by flirting in front of him. He’s smart enough to see through this and will just take it as evidence of your insecurity.

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When An Aquarius Man Tests You

Aquarius men are fiercely confident, fiercely independent, and also have a pretty high opinion of themselves.

But this means that they see themselves as someone who is above lying and mistrusting, which is a welcome characteristic in any man.

But that doesn’t mean that he doesn’t occasionally play games. He wants a partner that he views as “good enough” for him, and he might test you to see if you are up to the job.

But his tests are innocent and likely to be one-off.

He’s not the kind of person to keep moving the goal post and ask you to continuously jump through hoops.

The best thing that you can do is respect him for who he is and not try to change him, and show him exactly who you are and not try and change yourself to better fit what you think he wants.